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When a man and a woman meet for the first time, they may not have marriage in mind but after a few dates or a long courtship, a wedding is usually the end result of their first meeting.  Many couples go on to live long and happy lives together, celebrating 30, 40 or 50 years of wedded bliss.  Unfortunately many other couples, in fact the majority of couples that marry today end their union in divorce before reaching a five year milestone.

A Divorce attorney NYC can attest to some of the most bitter divorces in which couples have come to hate each other over some of the smallest, most trivial disagreements although most divorces end because of infidelity or things they once had in common which are no longer important to them.

Unfortunately there are no winners in a divorce case, and the ones that come out the worst are the children.  Either on purpose or knowingly, many parents used their children as “bargaining chips” in custody battles in which one parent does not want the other parent to have any contact with the children. Many studies have shown it is not in the best interest of the children.  According to a New York family attorney, depending on the circumstances, this may or may not be true.

If one of the parents has a drug or alcohol addiction and refuses to seek treatment for their problem, then it is not in the best interest of the children to be with that parent and subject to possible abuse or neglect.  However this is not for the other parent to decide, it is for the courts to decide and the way in which they come to a conclusion about a parent’s ability to care for a child is by talking with the child, the parent and sometimes observing the two together.  Many times a child advocate, a lawyer for the child or court appointed therapist will observe and speak to all parties involved.

It is rare but sometimes a parent will see what is happening to their children and decide that an uncontested divorce New York City would be best for everyone involved and they agree to the terms laid out by the courts or their former spouse.